The nature of the talking stick provides us the opportunity to speak from our hearts and mind. When used in a peace circle it provides the circle to process what is being said and be heard without judgement. It paces our time. When the stick is passed to you, it is only your words being spoken. With intent, your words are received with openness and provide a path to understanding. It’s a tool of communication to solve problems or to gather deeper insights in any situation.
The beauty of the talking stick is the golden moments of thought process we share with reflection, respect and consideration. While the collective sounds of our heartbeat paces our thoughts, we courageously find our voice to share in a peace circle without interruptions. It takes time, presence and mindfulness.
Each time I participated in a circle-surprising encounters of awareness occurs, resulting in a deeper sense of appreciation for humanity. This tradition is so valuable and vital to our ways of communication, if only we can use it more in our systems such as law, government, schools, mediation…did I mention gov’t?
I would like to share my gratitude to Dr. Evelyn Zellerer, founder of Peace of the Circle, for her graceful and impeccable directions and facilitation training on leading a peace circle at my work place, Frog Hollow Neighbourhood House. My experiences were always positive feelings of enlightenment and a sense of common ground.
The photo represents the talking stick given to me as a gift from a friend of mine named Rudy/George Matilpi (First Nations carver Kwakiutl from Alert Bay). It is depicting the Raven and majestic Eagle. I am grateful for his gift and I will use it in our future work with community.
I am honored.
With much love, gratitude, understanding, and friendship.
I would like to acknowledge that I live, work and play on the unceded and traditional territories of the Coast Salish peoples – sḵwx̱wú7mesh (Squamish), sel̓íl̓witulh (Tsleil Waututh) and xʷməθkʷəy̓əm (Musqueam) first nations.
Valentine Day is my favourite time of year, It’s an opportunity to share a piece of our heart in so many ways. May it be chocolates for the office or that one person we think about all the time. How about hugging our daughters and sons and lovely grandchildren which I cannot resist. Tell them they are perfect just the way they are, say I love you, say I care. It’s not too late. Our partners, friends, neighbours, sweethearts, and especially out Mama’s. Just show love, one way or another it will be received for it is all we need!
I love you all, especially Mama!
hugs Eva xoxo
Love grows one step at a time. Love is an energy that provides us opportunities to do better, to learn from our mistakes, to understand our pain, heal and supports us to carry on. It’s love’s energy that labours at all our endeavours and challenges and like a stairway to a higher understanding awaits for us to reach out to it but it takes patience, awareness and mindfulness. We can achieve all we aspire with love as our foundation. Know that love is always there for us, around us, surrounds us, and grows through our lifetime one step at at time.
Just found this passage I wrote in 1998…I think I was on to something.
There is a familiar sense of nostalgia, a sort of invisible passage, that connects one to a past as well the future of inherent and essence.
1998 Eva Aboud
Our inner being hints to us a message, hold on to it, right it down, someday it will make sense to you.
I remember when I first heard the phrase ‘Think Outside the Box ‘… I was astonished because I thought to myself at the time “there’s a box and I have been thinking from within in it?” My reaction was “Oh how liberating, I’m going to set myself free and think outside the ‘box!”
But then all along as I tried my hardest to be liberal and think alternatively with an open mind, I came across another saying that stated, ‘No need to think outside the box… there isn’t one”
What? Well, you can’t imagine how double free I felt when I read that quote… actually, come to think of it, which came first? Were we born in a ‘box’ and now need to crawl out or we’re we always free and the theory or concept placed us within it? Suddenly realizing to myself all this time the box theory was really quite controlling…it has restraints on our creativity, a bit stunting or stagnating. Interesting isn’t it at just how the opposite happened… at least for me.
So what am I trying to say ?
Let your vision soar, let it fly like an eagle without fear of limitations. Be free and dream away without any rules or restrictions. You’re mind excels way beyond any box, in fact it’s unlimited. You are unlimited !!